Things that disappear

door 4

While my house was being looted and torn apart, I was at a concert, staring up at a beautiful singer. All the strangers in my row were featureless in her supernova light. If she was the movie, we were the extras. Useful while we filled the background and lined the pockets, the star would be glad when we finally left.

My children were at their dad’s and my orbit had become irregular. I was dressed in a a big fluffy faux fur jacket from Target, the kind of thing selected for and peddled to permanent audience members. Fans.  Followers. People better suited to spacesuit costumes than rocket science. When I left my house that night, I was more concerned with that stupid outfit than the bolt on my backdoor.

Earlier, my friends had picked me up in my driveway. I’d tottered across the cement in high heels, my hair and my anxiety whipped like stiff egg whites, the daylight shining badly on my array of cheap, poly-plastic accessories.

“You look fancy,” my friend Tom said, with concern. “You alright?”

“Yeah,” I said, tryharding to not tryhard so fucking hard. “Of course, why?”

I knew why. My feelings were ajar. My internal state visible to all, just like my house. Just like my blinds left stupidly in the up position, always letting the light in and the secrets out. For somebody so heavily invested in facades, I was not much good with them.

At the concert, I cheered and clapped, the hollows of my body taking up predictable space and volume with all the other bodies that cheered and clapped. We gathered our purses and coats and moved obediently to the merch table in the lobby where the artist posed with fans and autographed t-shirts. Flashes popped, people jostled to get closer. I planted myself near the water fountain, envying the pattern of highlights in her hair. How did women manage to wear their beanies so effortlessly, I wondered, and find devoted hipster boyfriends and create successful careers?

Meanwhile, back at home, my Christmas lights were twinkling over my fireplace, giving a luster of midday to xboxes below. Maybe the thieves had been watching from the woods for weeks, learning my dull routine. Me, dressing and undressing, curtains never drawn with proper consistency because the only things jostling around me were squirrels at the feeders, or kids at lunchtime. Years, timelapsing across my bedroom wall. My laptop was in a deep winter’s nap on the kitchen table, all the unsaved pictures of my children sleeping with her, unaware that gravity was quickening, pulling. My backporch security light, too, was in eternal slumber. My door knob yielded to the turning. Maybe they just got lucky.

On the way home from the concert, my friends and I rolled up to the scene of a car accident. A fire truck angled to block off the intersection. We idled in the blinding blue strobes, unable to pass, unable to see the travesty.  Tom turned off the car engine. All was still and cold. A life-flight helicopter hovered overhead, invisible but for its pulsing chop and single, wheeling searchlight.  It scanned the perilous whips of traffic lights and floated down, down, down. Humans disembarked, approached a waiting ambulance and disappeared inside it. The helicopter waited. The police waited. The traffic waited.  Somewhere, in the middle of this steaming ring of light, the life of one person slipped closer to the void. We yawned and shifted in our passenger seats. My breath fogged in the air, my teeth chattered.

Back at my house, shadows crossed the living room.

Finally, they put the gurney in the helicopter hatch and the craft lifted away into the blackness. My friends delivered me unceremoniously unto my house, waved goodbye, and drove away.

Inside, I dropped my purse and keys and made my way through the dark, tripping over toys and detritus. It was so cold. I couldn’t wait to take off my fake pointy pieces and slip into a hot, quiet bath, float in a dim, weightless embrace, far far away from light and sound and pressure.  I flipped on the bathroom light, turned the spicket to hot, and let the warm water rush over my red, freezing hands.  Why was the house so cold? I turned my attention to the thermostat, and that’s when I saw the back door gaping wide open.

It was broken like a ripped airlock, its tattered screen lifting in the breeze. I stopped breathing and listened. I could hear the furnace straining full blast through the vents, warm air disappearing out the door and into the black night.

My laptop on the kitchen table – gone. The pen was still on its left, the bowl of oranges on its right, but in the middle there was a 12 inch by 12 inch space where it had vanished.

I took a step backwards, then another, retreating to a safer vantage point. I could still hear the bath running, running in a totally different sort of house now. The Christmas lights shone on the empty spot where the TV used to be. All the TVs, in fact, were but dusty outlines on their wood veneer platforms. These erasures hit the back of my retina and filled in my understanding forever. To be robbed is to become acquainted with the shock of these empty spaces. A thing that is there when you leave, may be an empty space when you return. The empty space is indelible. It is where your trust used to live.

I panned out to take in the floor, all my chincy baskets pulled out of their shelves and overturned and ransacked. All the empty cases, the strewn wires, the plugs stripped of their valuable ends.  I listened again. Whoever had bulldozed through here, was he gone? I could still smell him.  He’d taken all my portable things out the back door, leaving video game cases trailing like bread crumbs into the forest.

I rummaged my purse for my phone, swirling around the receipts and the keys and the coins. It took me a full minute to gather enough wits to remember protocol and press three numbers.

With the receiver to my ear, my awareness widened: my cat cowering under a bed, the sundries and the staples and the cheap things spread like dirty frosting across the wall to wall carpeting: costume jewelry and the vinyl place mats and the dirty dishes and the yard sale possessions.  But all the tasty filling, the quality-of-life upgrades, the computers, controllers, and cameras paid for with blood, sweat, and installment plans – all empty spaces.  In the room that my kids shared, everything dumped, yanked out, ripped, emptied, Christmas presents harvested and toted away in a missing backpack.

Material things don’t matter. That’s what good people say on the evening news. Material things can be replaced. But sometimes they can’t. Sometimes when things disappear, they stay gone. In their place are brand new problems, like bitterness, fear and lack.

But I was relatively new to robbery and when the cops showed up, I said white things. I joked like, do come in, gentlemen. I give you: le désastre.  The gaskets in my brain had blown. I folded my arms tight so my body wouldn’t plume out the side.  They stepped awkwardly around all my shitty pieces, snapping flash photos from every angle, piecing together a telescopic image of my scuffed walls and carpet stains, kitty litter crunching underfoot, nerf guns and school papers and garbage cans at max capacity. Opened cupboards full of mess, makeup all over the bathroom counter, hair dryer on the floor, bed unmade.  And me, in rockstar clothes. You couldn’t tell where my life ended and the crime began.

While I waited for the cops to finish their work, I peered outside at the police cruisers parked by my mailbox. In every direction, my neighbor’s houses were shuttered up tight. Not so much as one curiously parted window blind. I might as well have been living in a colony on the moon.

It was 1 o’clock n the morning. They gave me a business card, a case number, a warning. It was probably just some kids, they said. Kids. Oh good, just kids! Send in the helicopter, amiright? Ha. No worries, material things, who needs them?

I was glad when they left. It was awkward for everyone, the way I stood there, ankle-deep in the discarded hulls, the airless window panes sucking away all the matter. I would be just fine. Everything would be fine. It was just extra stuff, and I was just an extra person, in an empty space. There was no real emergency here.  I thanked them, in fact. Sunrise would come, albeit a frictious accretion disk around a black hole, but still. Sun.

copyright © K. Dawn Goodwin 2016


Prison is on Both Sides of the Jail

There’s a C-shaped stretch of highway that wraps around three sides of Carrollton. There is a neatly mowed median in the middle, guard rails and pine trees. There are a series of stoplights. There is a bridge. There is even a corresponding sky. These things never change. These things comprise the sum total of my world.

Where Newnan Street intersects this highway, there is a jail. I idle there at the red light and stare at it, transfixed. The green indicator in my dashboard flashes calmly west toward Wal-Mart, or east toward home. Route 16/27 lays directly ahead, but it can’t save me. I don’t go south anymore. All southbound roads contain the ghost of joy, the memory of speeding unbridled toward a low-hanging moon just over the next town. An escape hatch, an open window pulling in just enough wind and life to make me dream of that drive. I dream of it like a dying man.

No one is forcing me not to  stay within my yellow lines. There is no string around my neck that keeps me swinging back and forth on my predetermined half moon of asphalt, and yet I  do.  It’s not that I’m not allowed to pass the jail and leave town anytime I want, it’s that I have no cause to — and it feels the same way.  And there, the jail looms like a watchtower.

At least I don’t have a concrete ceiling. I can look up and take in the ambivalent and unchanging high-pressure cosmos as it parades past, suggesting  that we are all truly free. All that hydrogen and oxygen.  All the things you can’t reach when your feet are made of carbon, nailed to the earth.

The jail is a hive of towering containment and recycled air, with little slits punched in the side so all the stockpiled humans inside can peek out and see just enough of the world to stay sane.  Jail, I say to myself, and shudder.  Jail.  I let the feel of the word resound inside my head, and all the while my blinker goes tick, tick, tick.  Each beat, another year gone. Another year where I swore too, by this time next year, I’ll be free.

I imagine a prisoner looking down at me in my car, a faceless  suburban packhorse.  He doesn’t know that every time I pass by, I review his life all over again from the beginning.  How does it feel to do time,  to never be allowed to cross that line?  Then I look around at my amber waves of dead fescue and shining sea of guard rails, and wonder how many trips around the sun I’ve spent making trips around the jail.  The truth  flashes, a solar flare of panic — just a touch.  A core of rage that cools into a sinking feeling,  and then, nothing but a grocery sack full of rocks.



copyright © K. Dawn Goodwin 2016


Dirty Projector

A band released an album in 2009 that  became, for me,  a cross by the highway that marks the dead.  Inside each track lurks a hologram of that summer, a descending fluorescent half-dome that yanks me across time and space.  Suddenly, I’m driving away from John’s house on highway 16  in the dry and blinding Temecula sunrise, my retinas overexposed, my corneas zig-zagged with streaks of  sun-poisoning.  It was June and already my left arm was as brown as the finches, resting in the open car window, speeding past the strip beyond the dealership. I was hungover, I was spent. But after all that we’d been through, I knew we’d make it. After the wait.

The question, the song went, is the truth.

“Listen to track four,” he told me, handing me the disc through my car window. I knew his lips like my own flesh and blood, but these farewell kisses were worse than a stranger’s.  Beneath his calm, I sensed the panicked division and transference of two men.  One cold, one caring. He  scrambled to toss me a lifeline as he slipped beneath the carefully remade horizon.

He always gave me something to listen to on the hour ride home. He liked songs that were unusual, little bursts of flavor and texture on a barren grid of four-way stops. I pocketed them all like gold tokens. They weren’t him, but they were. They were.

He was my world back then, back when my world was a series of  meadow-lined routes between Carrollton and Senoia, each as smooth and sunbaked as a torqing synthesizer under ecstatic two-part female harmony, fanning out into a cryptically-worded cacophony of Artistic Integrity that sometimes hurt my ears. I tapped forward through the tracks like a patient searching for the right morphine drip. But even still, the passing song fragments of Bitte Orca absorbed into my bones like x-rays, saturating me with  dreams and free radicals, neither doing me much good.

Definitely you can come and live with us, the lyrics went, as I passed the house full of abandoned yard toys for the hundredth time, behind the field of propane tanks. I know there’s a space in the basement, yeah. All you gotta do is help out with the chores and the dishes.

And I know you will.

I will! I will!

But I spent my weekends with my phone at the dirty lake beach, waiting for a call  that never came, my Gatorades floating in long-melted ice.

The horizon bright and motionless,  the song went. The EKG of a dying woman.

“What if I just snuck over?” I asked him one Saturday night. I hadn’t seen him in 12 days. Twelve days, 8 hours and 45 minutes. My tan lines were fresh, my heart as empty as a shell. “After your kids are asleep?”

“No,” he answered, and laughed slightly, as if I was just a kidder. “There’s no way.”

To him it was amusing that I’d even ask such a thing, but to me it was a red flag so big he could’ve wrapped my corpse in it.  Hearing that, my right arm barely had enough will to live.  I leaned against the wall, trying to keep the phone to my ear.  I could feel the sand embedded in the metal seams, the residual scent  of Hawaiian Tropic.

I wasn’t above begging.

“But, I could leave early in the morning, before they wake up?”

“I can’t, sweetness. I’m sorry.”

Is there someone else? I wanted to ask, but dared not.

“What are you up to tonight?” he asked, steering the conversation away. Don’t confront me with my failures, sweetness.  Hot stuff.  Wonderbucket.

I love you, I thought, but instead said, “Nothing.”

But that night I would be up to more than nothing. I hung up pleasantly, a terrified witness behind the arbitrary lines, and sauntered to the shower in a daze. I was used to the pain. I was used to letting my mind wander safely above the truth. It came in handy, since tonight I didn’t want to look too closely at anything. I shaved with a dull razor, dressed robotically and sent a flurry of text messages to people I barely knew.

An hour later I stood awkwardly in some stranger’s  high-end kitchen, watching strange people mix drinks, lighting torches meticulously, twisting semi-naked with each other out on the deck, swapping partners, trading wives, reaching out their unfamiliar fingers to tug at the belt loop above the zipper on my shorts.  I found my hands stroking the two-day stubble on some guy’s chest, fighting back the grief it left in my scored palms, his attractive face like needles in my eyes. I could smell the geranium nearby as he kissed me, like a failure.  It was Saturday night, and all I wanted was John. John’s hands, John’s bed. John 3:16. John’s eyes like two doves.  John the holy ghost.

I picked up my flip-flops and my keys and skirted the light, seeking the end of the driveway.

“Where are you going,” the guy called after me. “Whoa, whoa. Wait. Please.”

He was wiry, crew cut, tan, but with the slick and empty mannerisms of a man who gauges all his movements on their likelihood of procuring sex.

“I can’t,” I turned to face him, planted at the hood of my van, staring at my feet. “There’s this other guy I’m seeing.”

Seeing, I thought. That’s all I did. I saw him. In my mind. In thumbnails. In music videos in my mind.

“I don’t want to wreck it,” I managed. “I don’t want to cheat on him.”

Wreck what? I wondered. Wreck the illusion. Wreck the compartment I lived in.

I tend to keep things in compartments, John had once told me, in an email.  I’m sorry, I guess it’s a guy thing.

A guy thing.

“If he’s so great, where is he tonight?” this other guy asked.

I know, right.

“He’s got his kids,” I said, which always shut every question down so nicely. Even my own.  Is your boyfriend imaginary?  No silly, he’s got his kids.

“So, you’re leaving me?” he huffed. “You just got here. I thought we were having fun.”

He had me cornered, the back of my knees now against the bumper, my air invaded by his  Hollister cologne. I just wanted my car. I wanted to go home and sleep so I could shut off the dirty projector in my mind, where my fantasies glowed inside the unfulfilled film reel of Track Nine:

When  I’m ready for my whole world to open up and surrender, I’ll look for you. I will be searching the garden and the street, I will look into the eyes of everyone I meet. 

“You can’t leave me with this,” this douchebag kept saying, taking my hand in his and placing it squarely on his hard-on. There was rage somewhere in that, concealed behind his puppy dog eyes, his drunken purr. “Baby.”

“That feels nice,” I teased. Sometimes I was the most friendly when I was the most frightened.  “I can’t.”

I kissed him again, a reformed cannibal, and backed into the driver’s seat, backed out of the driveway, back  into the safety of my memories. Back into my Johnsongs.

Call on me,  it went. Call on me, call on me, call on me.  But I couldn’t.  Ever. Least of all now.

I sunk into the disappointment of my headlights, leading me around the curving two lane road, back home. I didn’t want to feel this bad right now, so I thought instead about how John and I had put the clean sheets on his bed that night, before crawling in them to make sick love.  We hadn’t seen each other in so long. Fifteen days, ten hours. Twenty-two minutes. He’d been busy.

“Yay, we finally get to have a sleepover,” I’d kidded, standing in panties and a gauzy t-shirt on the other side of his bed,  stuffing his pillows into their clean cases.

“Yay,” he laughed, doing the same on his side. “Sorry I didn’t have this ready when you got here.”

“I don’t mind.”

My thighs shook for him, sticky and hot, panting on the inside, while on the outside I played it cool and cautious, always afraid of somehow scaring him away.

“This is the best housework ever,” I added.

It was the essence of him that made me feverish. The arrangement of his words, his blue suede Addidas sneakers waiting by the front door, the way he sketched out football plays like boyish works of art, the way he washed all his pots and pans and left them drying neatly by the sink. He reminded me of someone I wanted to impress, someone I wanted to be, someone I’d never had. But most of all, of someone who didn’t want me back.  And that was the part of him that I wanted worst of all. I wanted the push of his opposing magnet stuffed deep inside me, claimed and reversed, converted and annihilated into shining union.

“Can we have sex tonight?” I asked all at once, after the puffy comforter had been aligned into the corners of his four-post bed.

“Of course,” he said, in that polite understated way.  My eyes rolled up into my head, imperceptibly.

He rolled back the covers and switched off the light, even though I’d asked him to leave it on. It didn’t matter. I didn’t need light to find my way up onto legs, his fingers, his lips, his cock. I could spellbind him blindfolded and backwards;  just the thought of him made me condense into single-minded instinct with superhuman and slave-like talents. I wanted only to pleasure him into submission, into a decibel of need as combustible as mine. He responded to me in kind, with the same sort of ridiculously rough, hair-pulling passion.

I don’t know what I should be looking at, but I will look wherever I’m told.  That was exactly what he’d said. Only, he’d used Track Six to say it.

Outside his bedroom window, the whole dim unlucky world seemed to lapse into second place, falling short of the prize of being me, being us.  I stretched out across the bed, across his naked body, across the stratosphere, as far as the rubber band of my life could go before snapping back in the other direction. For a tight, straining, airless second, I was suspended at the farthest most beautiful outpost of pleasure, the other half of my life  reduced to a speck on a dark sleeping planet.

But that’s where I spent the summer, banished to the outskirts of the galaxy, in Carrollton, with a copy of Bitte Orca like an instruction manual for a stalled spaceship. I memorized it behind my sunglasses, through Sharpsburg and then Newnan, past the cow pasture where I turned left, past the highschool and the second CVS, I played it past the gas station where I’d bought gas on the way in as the heat and the fumes shimmered on the asphalt, past the restaurant where we’d eaten on the patio, at the traffic light where the sweltering morning sun radiated with all the blistering promises of Track Four, and also a suffocating loneliness that seemed big enough to swallow an entire earth full of summer.

I know that I will always love youfrom now until forever baby I can’t imagine anything better.  

“I’m glad you enjoyed the songs,” his email said. “But sadly, there wasn’t any kind of hidden message in any of those songs. They’re just random tunes I thought you’d dig.”

But, that song. It had already saved my life ten times. It was my only way back to his planet. It was the only thing I had that was real.

Don’t defend a silver lining, around the halo of what is already shining, when all the planets are aligning, for an afternoon that’s never-ending.

Not that. Don’t take that one too.

I closed his email and swiveled over in my swivel chair, clutched the arm rest for life support, and cried. The grief was so massive,  like a huge animal that could only be expunged through my face, in a silent yawn of pain.  One by one, the stars in my sky were blotted out, sucked through a straw into the black hole of cyberspace.

After all that we’d been through, I know we’ll make it. After the wait. The question is the truth. The stillness is the move.

But the song would always be just the song.


copyright © K. Dawn Goodwin 2016




Staying Home

Our town has really good schools, which is odd, considering it is also one of the most visually depressing, economically desolate, tank-pocked landscapes a Wal-Mart has ever had the misfortune to plunder. Wal-Mart is actually one of its more attractive features. However, should you need to die in Bremen, the funeral home isn’t bad.

I’d been flirting with the clerk at a video game store nearby. He was a 24 year-old Iraq war vet, and after he’d told me about a few of his tours, I guess I thought his world-weariness and my Bremen-weariness meant we had something in common. We stood outside the store while he smoked a cigarette.

“So, what do you think of Bremen?” I asked, sweeping my hand in the direction of I-20 and the Cracker Barrel.

“I love this place,” he said, and I was taken aback by his tone. It left an indelible impression that someone could feel about this town the same way I felt about my screensaver of the Fiji islands.  “I would never want to live anywhere else.”


“Nope. Love it.”

Conversations like that always made me feel weirder than I already was.  Didn’t he ever have that gnawing suspicion that there was something better out there, something a little more wow and a little less Captain D’s?

The first year my kids went to school in Bremen,  I asked a mother in my daughter’s class for her email address. The woman wrote it down on the paper I offered, but continued talking to her close friend, the way a besieged celebrity might obligingly sign an autograph. I thanked her but she didn’t respond. Pan-handling for play dates, I thought, is so much fun.  I looked down at her handwriting and hated it; I also now  hated her and her stupid kid.  What I was experiencing was the unwritten law of the Bremen female: stay with who you know from high school. Travel ball, church or cheerleading are also accepted interaction zones.  If your life doesn’t fall into any of those categories, you probably should just stay home.

I looked round the room, wondering if everyone here was that way. Maybe this was just a human being thing, and not necessarily a southern being thing.

At my sons’ kindergarten orientation, the middle-aged teacher had a smile like a mask. It was like her skin had been molded into a smile by scientists and then preserved in saccharin. She invited us, a room full public school parents, to come worship at her church home.  I stared directly ahead in obedient silence, trying to file away this cheerful warning. I focused on the pink laminated construction paper cut-outs, the whitewashed cinderblock wall, but nothing could shut the cabinet door in my mind. I ran my finger along my son’s name where it was taped to his desk, and felt so deeply sorry for him. I hoped he was too young to realize where we were. Maybe by the time he did, we would be somewhere else. Somewhere far far away.  Somewhere less here.

“My granddaddy owned this whole town,” another mother told me that first year. She was standing outside my minivan, talking through my car window in a church parking lot. Her hard-edged country manner had the air of a slightly upgraded tax bracket. Her daughter had come over to play with mine that day, and I was now doing as the Romans do, dropping  the girls off at Wednesday night church.  This mother didn’t yet know me, or the fact that I’d whisper-screamed “don’t believe anything they tell you!” in my daughter’s ear before she’d run inside to eat God’s free spaghetti.

The woman tried to size me up.

“People come to this town,” she was saying, “and buy these mansions and cain’t pay half their dang mortgage. But our house?  Paid in full. Same with the cars.”

“Yeah, where are these mansions exactly?” I asked, as if we were suddenly best friends. “I’ve always heard there’s money in Bremen but this place is so—“(DON’T SAY DEPRESSING) “depressing.”

Her face stayed blank.

“I mean, the strip malls look like,” (DON’T SAY IT) “third world ghettos for white people.”

She looked at me strangely. I figured, if I just kept talking, she’d understand. Or laugh. At least titter. I could go with titter. An intake or exhale of breath would be good. But her understanding of me was shriveling like road kill on time elapse. I had become a bundle of disorganized cells in the general shape of a human.

“I mean, the Piggly Wiggly on 78?” I kept on, hitting her with some verbal defib. “It’s like…post apocalyptic.” I waited. “It’s where groceries go to die.”

“Where are you from again?” she asked vaguely, as if she was passing my cage at the pound and couldn’t reckon my breed.

“Carrollton but,” I answered, watching. “But I’m from…up north…”

“Oh,” she said, meaning, I lived seven minutes too far to be worthy of her well known family name and fully paid family mortgages.

I still have her number in my cell phone, but she never spoke to or returned my phone calls ever again. It could’ve been that conversation. Also, it could’ve been the fact that during that playdate her seven year-old caught me uploading a picture of her grandmama’s minivan onto Facebook.

“That’s my Nana’s car!” the little girl had cried out from behind me, ejecting me out of my chair.

“Oh you scared me,” I said, my right hand breaking the sound barrier to switch off the screen.  “You guys want some Lucky Charms? Some cash?”

I didn’t know it was her grandmama’s van. In all honesty, I don’t think I believed the owner of that minivan was an actual person. It was plastered with so many racist anti-Obama Tea Party bumper stickers that you couldn’t even see out the back window.  I’d seen it in the school pick-up line but never had the guts or the camera readiness to idle beside it long enough to angle my shutter. In the scheme of my life, actually getting close enough to capture the font on those bumper stickers was like, I don’t know. Shooting a lion on safari.  It was way up there.

Sometimes Facebook friends are better than real friends, said no one ever.  Except me.  I say that a lot.

At the school conferences that first year, I ran into a woman I actually knew.  Our kids had gone to the same preschool together years earlier. She was an insider, a tried and true local who could brandish her last name like a frequent flyer card. She was a pro at doing the southern mom thing, dedicating her life to ensuring that she and her son were at the terrifying social center of any sporting event.

My mama hates you, she’d once told me.

Wait, what?  I had only met her elderly mother once, at a kids’ swim party.

Yeah, (laughter) Mama thinks you’re a communist lesbian from the pit of hell.

Back then, I had short pink hair and was always breastfeeding in a long Indian print maternity skirt. So yeah, I guess she had a point. But Christ, at least my granddaddy wasn’t a Klansmen.

“Come meet my friends,” she said, and took my arm. It was a month after I’d arrived in Bremen, and I hadn’t talked to her in years. Her warmth was uncharacteristic. Maybe she was excited that I had long hair now, and pants. Maybe she just wanted to establish her territory, to point out the invisible yellow lines of friendship that I would never be invited to cross. She steered me toward two of her fellow Junior Leaguers whom I imagined had terminator-style readouts scrolling behind their vision. Something about their demeanor struck fear into my heart.

“Nice to meet you,” I smiled at them. “I’m Dawn.”

Despite everything, it was kind of a relief being introduced to someone, somewhere. She could’ve introduced me to a stop sign and I would’ve been fucking elated.

Hi! I exist!

“I keep telling Dawn she needs to come to Church with us,” my friend said.

“Really?” I turned to her, incredulous.  “C’mon. You know I don’t do Jesus.”

As the words do Jesus reverberated through the cafeterias of hell, the smiles of her friends turned into the shells of smiles –the replicas of what smiles would look like had smiles still been alive today. Smile memorials. Smiles encased in sliding plates of Batmobile armor. I knew how uncouth it sounded to rebuke Jesus, as if he was just some nobody; I knew, and my friend knew too, which was maybe why she’d paraded me out here in the first place and thrown the bait. Maybe she was just bored.  But I enjoyed holding ladylikeness by its neck under warm bath water, the little air bubbles popping at my wrists until the flailing stops. I enjoyed provoking their awkward silences, because the expectation that I was supposed to give a certain kind of fuck about their church was directly proportional to the many fucks I didn’t give. I even enjoyed the loneliness that welled up in me in the wake of these brief but mutual cullings. And then, as I drove home, past the endless sweeping vistas of Bremen’s bankrupt strip malls and its thrift stores packed with destitution, I didn’t much enjoy anything at all.

“I read your book,” my Junior Leaguer friend told me later. “My husband and I both did, and you know what he said to me afterward?”

“What?” I asked, hopeful. Dreadful.

“He said, it was just really sad. We both just felt so sorry for you.”

Because that’s what insiders do. They feel sorry for outsiders, but not because they’re actually sorry; because living outside the pack is their greatest fear. A pack’s directive is to peck its members into submission so together they can kill the big, beautiful, solo-flying targets. That is all Bremen has to offer humans; that is all humans have to offer the world. Endlessly boring groupthink variations of  “kill.”

Bright spots in Bremen are strangers like Cody, the gay kid who works behind the counter at Sally Beauty Supply.  He inspires me because a) he is gay in Bremen and b) he is gay in Bremen.  Cody  taught me things about curling irons I didn’t even know I didn’t know. He knew about conditioners. He knew about ceramic and tourmaline.  Amidst the soulless flesh-hulls of middle aged cashiers who were unable to provide a single original answer to any nuanced question other than AH DOUGHNT RILLY KNOUUGH, Cody was a fresh-faced champion who drank from the fount of hair-knowledge. I looked at him, and thought, If Cody can do it here, godammit so can I.   I can survive here for one more year.

I went into Sally’s to see him, but instead of Cody I found a meek long-haired woman behind the register, talking in hushed gossipy tones with a customer.

Customer:  “And so this is what they said. At the school graduation we are NOT allowed to have a prayer!”

Cashier: “Nooo!

Customer: “Can you believe that?

Cashier: “You’ve got to be kidding.”

I wished theirs, like every other conversation I am privy to but never included in, was a private conversation.  I wished like hell they could just all fly to heaven and talk there, but no matter where I walked in the store I could hear them. I picked up a plastic-wrapped comb, any comb. I wanted to browse the shelves and read the labels but I found myself highly agitated, not caring which kind or what price or where I was. I heard myself make a little whimper. I realized my heart was suddenly racing. Oh shit.

Customer: “They said because prayer at a public school event is disrespectful to people of different beliefs.”

Cashier: “Oh please! It has always been held in the church!”

Customer: “And that is exactly right. So there was an absolute uproar.”

Cashier:  “Well good!”

Bottle of toner.  T11? T28? I fingered the swaths of doll hair, unable to compare any of the colors. I walked robotically up to the register and stood paralyzed, awaiting my turn. My chest was hurting. I kept a safe and pained distance, leaning slightly toward the other side of the world.

Customer: “And so we told them, that is how we’ve always done it in this town. We are NOT going to change it. And if there are parents here who don’t like it, they can just stay home!”

And then, at that exact moment, both women turned around to look at me with their expectant am I right faces.  It was weird. Almost ike we were in some kind of cosmic vignette, and it was my cue to say the next line. So I did.

“Well that’s not very Christian of you,” I laughed, though nothing was funny. My skull felt like all the bone had been replaced with cotton. “Because I’m one of those parents.”

I wasn’t really. I wasn’t even 100% sure what the fuck they were talking about. Even still,  I was reasonably certain that they comprised the sum total of everything that made Jesus weep.

The customer immediately turned her back to me.

“And so they changed it,” she continued, exulting in the mootness of my point. “In the end they allowed the prayer.”

“Well,” said the cashier. It was perhaps her second day on the job, and my upstage presence was unnoticed. Oh, how I missed Cody. Cody and his wonderful gay gayness.

“So, anyhow, it was good seeing you,” waved the customer, heading forth into her sunny life of neatly defined morality. Then, not to me: “Have a good day hon.”

“You too,” said the cashier. I stepped forward to put my comb and my little box on the counter. She angled her head down to not look at me.

“’If you don’t like it, just stay home,’” I repeated to myself, as if the conversation was still in play. “How Christian is that.”

“Do you have a club card?” she asked.

I handed her my key ring.

“I mean, it’s always amazing to me,” I continued, “how Christians don’t understand the tenets of their own religion.”

“That’ll be $5.82.”

I handed her a twenty, and watched as she painstakingly made change, talking quietly to the bills. Because even dollars are safer than sinners.

I walked out with my bag, the plastic trembling between my fingertips. What was the point of that, exactly?  To get myself all sick and dizzy? Why couldn’t I just shut up? To pray is human, to go quiet is divine. Let them have their world out in the open.  You can keep yours behind closed doors. You know, at home. Where non-praying people should just stay.

I caught my reflection in the glass door, wondering what I looked like to people here. Maybe they didn’t even see me at all. Maybe I existed in a parallel dimension that intersected this town but did not fully join with it. Maybe that was the literal definition of hell.  It certainly explained why I found joy in avoiding any and all eye contact.  And though my social failures are many, they pale in comparison to the pile of used mattresses and busted appliances that are dumped in the abandoned development behind the new school.  Maybe that’s what happens when you don’t have a church home; you spend a lot of time taking pictures of piles of tires and shacks with sheets for windows. They speak to me more than humans, more than four year-old Blighton’s little league or Derpina-Grace’s dance recital. Looking in from the outside for so long, listening in on all these countless overheard conversations, I’m reasonably sure that somewhere Jesus Christ is stabbing himself in the ears with two giant Jesus-sized pencils. What if he doesn’t give two shits about your church or your daddy’s daddy or your mama’s mama or your needlessly insecure graduation prayer? If he did care, why do all the buildings in your town look like tombs? Why does the land look like it’s been withering on a cross for half a century? Why are some of your best Christians the most cliquish and inhospitable people?  Maybe Jesus already checked in here, looked around, and decided He too was better off just staying home.

The last time I ever took my daughter to Wednesday night church here, an older woman approached her as she was getting in the car. She leaned down to her in a stern and quiet voice.

“Make sure you ask your mother to bring you to church here on Sunday morning.”

I held my hand up and waved slightly.  I was standing right there. Right in front of her.  She could ask me herself if she wanted to, because I was like, you know, two feet away.  In the interdimensional rift.

My daughter nodded, squirming.

“How was it?” I asked her, once the car door was safely shut. “Did they try and teach you anything about the Bible, because –“

“No, Mama. We just colored and stuff.”

“Oh that’s good.”

“And we ate cookies and played tag.”


“Oh, and this boy? He called me the B word.”

“He what?” I took my foot off the gas and the car jerked.

“He told me I was fat and called me the B word. But I pinned him to the ground and made it so he couldn’t breathe.”

“Jesus Christ.”

“So I told the teacher and they told him next week he has to just stay home.”

“Just stay home, huh.”

And then I understood. Just stay home was how Christians said “fuck off.”

“How about next week,” I asked her in the rearview. “You wanna just stay home too?”

“Okay,” she said, yawning.  “Cuz I don’t really like it anymore.”


copyright © K. Dawn Goodwin 2016

Bill Hicks: “It’s just a ride”

From Zeitgeist

K. Dawn Goodwin: Emory Alumni Interview

Thanks Tania, for asking great questions.

Buying Some Light

I take pictures of pretty clouds because it’s easier than photographing what’s  at eye level.  I don’t want to put a camera in that woman’s face.  She isn’t me, so she wouldn’t understand that sometimes I feel like I am her.

I parked my minivan in the Wal-Mart parking lot and stepped out, the hot wind rippling through my black sundress.  It was really pretty – the dress, I mean – cut like a long sari with gold embroidery and feathered white panels. Sometimes a $30 dress can inoculate you to all the problems of the world, even with clashing plaid platform flip-flops, at least for three minutes or so.

I strode toward the bakery entrance; I was here to purchase light bulbs for a fish tank, and maybe a bag of oranges because I’d been fighting the flu.  As I watched me and my flowing shadow pass over the oil stains like a low-lying cloud, I brushed too close to a car I thought was empty – a tiny gray coupe in the worst shape possible, something driven out of a nightmare or a junk lot, half its pieces missing and broken.  It was double parked on the diagonal yellow stripes.

I didn’t know it was full of people until I was already upon it. Above the busted headlight I glimpsed the driver and realized she’d been watching me and my self-satisfied amble for quite a few car lengths.  I diverted to give respectful distance to the nub of her rearview, but I was close enough to smell the stale upholstery, to touch duct tape holding her door together, the rust and the gashes and the mismatched paint.  The engine was turned off, and the back window was closed. The glass reflected the passing orb of my T.J. Maxx purse, and also the faces of three babies inside – one sleeping in a hot car seat, two curly headed toddlers squirming in the sun beside her, an older one in the passenger seat. So many little bodies, like a pile of kittens nesting in trash, so trusting of the shitty world that apparently gave them life and nothing else.

The woman’s dark ponytail was gathered like a sheave of burned wheat. Maybe there was meth in her wiry arms, or desperation, how else could she let them all sit there in the baking sun, not going in the store  but not leaving it either, not seeking shade or relief, just stalled out over a black puddle, hanging by a thread because death had not yet showed up.  I didn’t just walk by her; I walked through her. I could feel her what the fuck, her must be nice, bitch and I entered the automatic doors of Wal-Mart still clinging to the squalor of those babies like a right hook in the gut.  I slowed, as if to go back, but my heel  wouldn’t turn.

What do you need?  I would ask her.  But I couldn’t ask her that.

It was this dress, my dress made it all wrong. It wasn’t the uniform of a fellow warrior, it was the beacon of naiveté, of free time and hobbies, of a non-addicted white girl who just paid $45 to have her oil changed AND her interior vacuumed.

Do you need any help?  said the imaginary me, leaning in her car window with a sack of McDoubles and a mesh bag of Florida oranges.  Here ya go, this should solve all your problems.

Who were they waiting for anyway, and would he kill me if I interceded into his demise? Maybe he’d follow me and rob me for drug money? Maybe she’d spit at me for daring to assume they were doing anything but being just fine, thank you. 

But couldn’t I do something?  I had $20 in cash.My minivan was clean and the AC worked and I had newish tires and a full tank. She could sleep in my bed and I could fill up the bath for her babies, I could pour their favorite cereal in the kitchen and make them feel what I sometimes felt when everybody was clean and fed and I had a quiet space to stir my tea: It’s all going to be alright.

But I kept walking straight, because it wasn’t going to be alright. I let her snap off behind me like a slingshot, out into the dusty broken-down distance, to a place I wouldn’t ever have to see or live in, because for some unknowable reason I was born here and she was born there, and that was a fact not made better by unwanted charity or free cheeseburgers. I bought a bag of oranges for myself instead and peeled one as I drove home.  They smelled sweet and fresh, like forgiveness from a beautiful dying world.

At home, I hung up my dress, screwed the bulb in my daughter’s aquarium lid and watched her fish swim indifferently around in their dirty tank, their world now a much brighter shade of decay.  I flipped the TV channels, pausing to watch a mother run to hug her small children, her edited happiness somehow coercing my tears– how good that must feel. I’ll take a happy feeling wherever I can get it, even a canned version. My life is full of dirty creature comforts, but my arms are well accustomed to a sterile kind of emptiness.  A mother separated from her children is the cruelest kind of pain; a mother with no money to care for them is just as bad.  A careless and cruel man well, he’s just par for the course.  I’ve lived the former and grazed the latter, and my scarred up heart has a hair trigger response to the sound of a crying child, to a woman whose eyes tell you she is teetering at the end.  I haunt the trenches where she is taking fire.

On a different evening, another young woman stood outside a different Wal-mart. I noticed her because her baby looked like my son— those fat little legs trying to stand, tiny hands grasping the edge of the cart like a captain on a sinking ship, it reminded me of those days back then, how hard it was.  This was just a passing thought, and then I was onto the next thing.

But an hour and a half later, as I wheeled my weary bags back out the automatic doors, there she was.  She was still there.  Still there.

I slowed to do a double take.  How could she still be here?  It was almost 11:00 at night. The baby was wailing on her hip, poor tired thing.  She was screaming into her cell phone, pacing, crying, while onlookers withdrew and whispered. In her cart was a new car seat wrapped in plastic. It was one thing to see an irate woman; another to see one so obviously desperate and struggling with a baby. Her distended stretch-marked belly hung over her jeans and drew my heart like a shield; the wounds of her birth were fresh and no one was protecting her, no one caring for her. I found myself staring at these bystanders, at their complete apathy and judgment, their pale unmoved faces like sacks of flesh in the sallow light, and suddenly it was just a microcosm of the entire earth, of humans who pick their teeth in amusement while a woman slides down the edge of a knife.

“Can I give you a ride?” I asked, pulling my cart alongside hers. My voice was submissive, offering no more than a sister in crime.

“No ma’am,” she sniffed.

She was so young. Not more than 19.

“You sure? I have a car seat. I have two.”

“Yes ma’am, no thank you. I just had to go and buy one.”

So I turned my back reluctantly, and retreated.

“Ma’am?” I glanced back to see her catching up with me, and my relief was palpable.  “Actually, if you don’t mind?”

While she dried her tears we loaded my van and I cleared the junk off the passenger seat. I cooed to her son, though he would have none of me.

We drove in silence for a while, and she explained that her boyfriend took off with the groceries and the car, leaving her and the baby with nothing, and no way home.

“Why would he do that?” I asked.

“I went in the dressing room to try on some pants,” she said, dabbing at her eyes. “And he said I went in there to cheat on him.”

“What, with the baby?”  I scoffed.

“I know right?” she laughed. “I love him, but he can be so…”

“Yeah, well,” I sighed, or growled, and then tried to soften it to a whisper. “Just so you know, he’s abusing you. Leaving you and the baby like that with no ride? That’s abuse.”

She said nothing, and I hoped it sunk into her arm like a needle.  I pulled into the Best Western like she asked me to, and waited outside with the baby while she dragged the car seat into the lobby. I bounced him in my arms, trying to calm his crying. But he strained away from me, reaching his arms to the door where his mother’s shape had disappeared. He wanted her, only her. Only his mommy.

Sometimes I have a rabid need to to save every mother, to soothe her baby for her, to fix what can’t be fixed, to make right what can never be made right; I am besieged. But the babies don’t need my arms, they need hers, and her battle isn’t mine to fight. The only thing I can really do is see for her, to bear witness to every black stain underfoot in a Wal-mart parking lot, because each one is a mother’s leaking lifeline. I am beholden to her pain, but can only illuminate it from a distance. All I can do is know what it’s like. And in knowing, understand that I’ll never know how hard it really is.

copyright © K. Dawn Goodwin 2016




I tore along the expanse of highway and let my car window down, like a stoma,  to receive the warm dirty air of pines and gum trees and weeds growing along the guard rails.  On the floorboards, my plastic bags chattered, the sediment stirred, the filaments of my hair lifting in the current.  I leaned into the wind to taste the sweet aroma, but nothing came.  I breathed in one more time, just to check.

This was the same stretch of highway where I’d chased his car that night, flying in tandem down four broad lanes, my four windows down, buzzing on the pleasant roar of tequila and wind and thumping bass.  For miles I could smell the honeysuckle blooming in the darkness, washing and whipping over me in cool, fragrant waves. The black horizon glowed purple just above the treeline,  his taillights pushing 90, darting past me in a diagonal line, tires tapping across massive plaques of smooth asphalt that shone under my headlights. My heart stroked the shadow of his speeding form, wondering if I would die from the sheer bliss of our impending sex, or maybe from an uncontrolled roll at the top of the exit ramp. Either way it was the perfect way to die, believing you might actually catch a thing that can never be yours.

Every year since then, the honeysuckle swelled again,  marking the useless passage of time, her plain flowers unfurling and beckoning to me at the edge of my weedy yard, crowned with a plume of feathery bugs.  Tethered to my bag of chips, to my hard drive, I’d sniff the breeze and drift outside onto the spongy earth, infusing the clean perfume into my lungs. That scent, the closest thing to my heart, the only remaining approximation of  love.  I’d breath her in deep, every spinning molecule, the stamen of my body arching upward like a broken satellite, avowing to transmit the southern sky forevermore, if for no one but myself.

The curve of your shoulder, he’d written. In my mind it was so soft your skin looked blurry like cotton. 

I’d worn a Mexican blouse that night, I’d kept tugging it down to cover the rolling flesh of my belly.  But above the table it slid down both my arms, and his shy smile undressed me, taking me in, his head cocked to the side like a man in love.  In that look of his, all the ecstasy of being alive in early spring, and all the warnings of dying in late summer. The southbound lane to his arms was a stream of fresh ribbons, the northbound a mangle of  knots that could never be undone.

She ended up being more imminent, more trustworthy, more constant than him.  Her fibrous pistils were undeterred by my firing pistons, my trash wrappers, my smoking trail of gasoline.  He left, but she came back.  Each year without fanfare or fail, her fragrance marked the unresolved passage of my grief.  She was the anniversary of silvery sun-soaked leaves that dissolved in the grinding gears of a chipper,  the communion of lovemaking before years of solitary confinement.

Not yet, but soon, I’d lay in my dry empty bed, breathing her, taking in her scent again. She would seep into my cells on the open highway, unfurling, calling, until finally I’d rise and depart my dirty patch of carpet to investigate; wandering out through my rotten screen door to inhale and sniff, to pull her petals apart with my lips and drink, and find the exact taste of my own blood, still longing to know itself.

copyright © K. Dawn Goodwin 2016


The Mountain, the Climber


Look at me, I’m the mountain, the lion of noon

My heart is an endless blue ice catacomb

My ruffled slate glitters, my spires feather -white

Your brand-name synthetic tent shudders all night;


Through the cracks of my body, cerulean ice flows

I’ve turned crashing waves into glistening stone

You tether and clip by aluminum rungs

Still the vaporless moon runs black in your lungs


Look down at your boot, abyss and freefall

Your mitten hand scraping the vertical wall

The sun snowblinds on primordial shale

Your flapping ropes strain, then billow like sail


In the valley of silence your ears ring and burst

Your eyes reflect back the curved seam of earth

You’re seeking my summit, the raven’s flint face

The blue sky that thins into blackness and space.


I am the mountain, my throne and my will

Stem low-lying clouds with the tip of my quill

The ceiling of stars sweeps the bend in my neck

My forearm at rest above each continent


At midnight I summit the earth as she sleeps,

So warm with despair, the wounds in her deep

My eyes shine with cold, I cradle the sphere;

And then there is you, asleep by my ear


My peaks glint like diamonds, my snow smokes like steam

The galaxy mimics the arc of my wings

No god has such power as one word from my stars

Yet your flashlight: a flicker, a hot beating heart


Your fingers just fibers, your ice pick half clings

To a cirrus of atoms, to carbon and strings

I see you ascend by the sheer Lhotse face

I perch by your path, you are never safe


And watching you seek me, I see who I am

I remember that coat, that frail frozen hand

You are what I am, and I’m what you’ll be

When your body lays strewn and your greatness is free


Look at me, I’m the mountain, the lion of noon

My heart is an endless blue ice catacomb

My ruffled slate glitters, my spires feather-white

I’m the dream of what’s coming; through the veil, to the light.



copyright © K. Dawn Goodwin 2016

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Cloudlight – Eskmo



Ode to Wal-Mart


In heaven somewhere an angel will quit

Each time that cashier has to scan all my shit;

She’s got lymph-edema, about 88

Pillhead to support – he’s home sleeping late.


O Wal-Mart, O Wal-Mart how can I describe

This feeling I feel when I go deep inside?

The eyes of your greeters are pools of despair

But you’re just so much cheaper I’ve learned not to care.


You’ve wiped out the scenery, killed mom n pop

homeless vets live in tents behind your back lot.

And me, yes it’s true, like some crack-smokin bitch:

Cash-strapped, stretch pants, with three hungry kids;


Be it fish sticks or towels or Equate spermicide

Or the Band-Aids my blood will need to squeak by

Or July 4th from China, or African plums –

my cart has no conscience;  she turns tricks and runs.


Cuz I need you like coughing needs a carton of reds

Like a cheating spouse needs prescription meds

I need you like white bread needs Sara Lee ham

Like electric carts beeping in a traffic jam.


I see the wifebeaters, the meth in their bones

The oil stains of Jesus, diabetes, bad loans

In a faraway country, your factory kids starve

But I’m saving on box tops and White Stag neckscarves;


Wal-Mart O Wal-Mart, your bakery sucks balls

And the slaves working there have eaten their souls

Fucknuts in pickups, ten puppies for free

An orc in aisle five beats her child with sweet tea.


But me, I’m your bae, your shorty, your boo

I shop every day with cloth bags and no clue

someday I hope I won’t need you so much

But for now I’m so broke, who gives half a fuck.



Dedicated to anyone tethered to a mangy plot of dirt, but who looks up anyway and beholds the beauty of the earth

copyright © K. Dawn Goodwin 2010-2011

The Nature of the Universe

(This essay was awarded 2nd place in the Memoir/Personal Essay category of the 80th Annual Writer’s Digest Writing Competition)

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I sat at the defendant’s table next to my attorney, shivering in the relentless air conditioning.  Annex B was a dingy, cramped back-up space that was used when all the nicer courtrooms were taken.  The fluorescent lights left an empty glare on the rows of plastic yellow chairs.  The audience was sparse, mostly strangers awaiting their turn to walk the plank.  An elderly Bailiff dozed along the wall near the empty witness stand, his head resting against the outdated paneling.

“Are you ready for the ruling of the court?”  The judge asked from his bench, putting on his reading glasses.

I sat up straight and stopped breathing.  What?  He hadn’t even taken a recess.  He hadn’t even deliberated, or pretended to.  He shuffled some papers and I stared up at the disapproving gray brick of his face.  My heart was a waterfall, swelling in my throat.

It was okay.  It was going to be okay.

“Yes your honor,” said Debbie cheerfully.  “We’re ready.”

That was the other attorney, sitting at the table opposite from us, next to my husband.  Her crispy little manner and practical square heels filled me with dread.

“We’re ready,” echoed my attorney, unimpressed, and with a touch of sarcasm.

“Well then,” said the judge, as if he was circling a crossword or ordering a large fry, or reciting a prayer at a funeral that nobody had bothered to attend.  “Have the temporary legal custody be with the father.”

Something was inbound. Something was urgent.  Be with the father, with the father, the father.  This meant something.  I waited for the follow-up, for the addendum, for the explanation of the real answer. Then my husband’s mother cried out from the back of the courtroom, a joyous gasp, a lone triumphant cheer meant to imply her martyrdom, meant to bury a knife in the softest part of my back.  A shot had been fired, the horses exploding violently from their gates, spooked and confused, crashing into the stands, trampling people under their powerful, bloody hooves.

“Child support, she makes $14.00 an hour, so we’ll base her payment on that,” the judge continued, talking to someone. “I’ll allow a deviation for her travel expense for visitation.”

Deviation, visitation, what was this, like the searing white seam of a tidal wave pulled taut along the horizon.  I stared at it from the shore, paralyzed, spellbound.  The life-giving sphere of my little snow-globe sky was peeling back like burning paper, the air sucked out of my chest and into the vacuum of a black, starless outer space.  This was not safe.  We were all unsafe here.  I watched my attorney’s pen, poised on his memo pad, trying to write.  Stuck, sticking, strike through – the tiny wet tip tried and failed to thread the first letter of a single word.

“The two of you work on that some,” the judge rattled on, “and see if you can agree on that.  If you can’t, call me for a conference and I’ll help you get the answer to that.”

The shame and fear was gathering above me, it belonged to me, it had come for me, unpeeling over my head as a mighty, ten-foot shockwave of galloping black water that would snuff out everything I had, everything I loved.  All of the bright, quiet mornings where my baby’s sleepy eyes adored me as he suckled my breast, our pale skin pressed together as one soft, luminous body.  This darkness rolled over us now, it was here to splinter the rocking chair where I’d held him, to sweep it all away, to tear apart my little green kitchen, as tender as a stalk of celery, where I twisted my daughter’s white hair around my knuckle, braiding it before breakfast, where I wiped the jam off her smooth skin with the edge of my sagging maternity shirt.The punishment had converged on me, on me alone, with every eye in the courtroom watching as it blotted out the iridescent soap bubbles I blew until I was dizzy, my son chasing them as they rose softly into the dry sky, thinning and effacing like my womb, like my swollen body that ached and arched and writhed with a pain so great I couldn’t even make a sound, bursting, releasing a baby ribboned with my tears and my blood, the broken seal of my love.

“Anything else?”  The judge continued. “There’s currently health insurance with the father, is that right?”

Across the room:  “Yes your honor.”

“Continue that.  Anything else?”

“Your honor, I think we can work out when the children get turned over to the father,” Debbie bubbled, falling over herself. “I think we can work out the return.”

So nice and neat, like formalities before an execution, but who would hold them when they cried? Who would wake in the night to pull up their blankets? Who would touch the rise and fall of each of my three sleeping babies? Who but me?

The children were not adequately cared for, my husband had told the court.  He’d stumbled a bit over the script.  I don’t think she was… watching them… not adequately.

Strange and matter-of-fact, the sound of those words, of him looting and laying waste.  But this was a court of law, where truth would prevail over this sickness, where justice would never bow for a performance, no matter how convincing.

She told me she wanted to kill herself, he’d said aloud, the words echoing.

Looking down on my head from above, I could see my wrinkled Wal-mart blouse coming untucked in the back, because it never fit right to begin with.  The sparkly pink clip in my side-parted hair.  How could I have worn these stupid things, these hallmarks of guilt, of a mental case.  Of a female.

I remembered how I’d been crying that day, stirring a foaming pot of macaroni.  I’d dried my cheeks with the back of my sleeve, the baby balanced on my hip.

Just put a gun to my head, I’d whimpered, over the dinging timer.

Oh my, he’d repliedthe whites of his eyes growing wider.  Oh, my.

I should’ve watched my words.  I should’ve kept quiet and hummed along like a dishwasher, like a perfect wife who gave everything and never broke down.  But I hadn’t known. I thought I’d married a country song.  I thought love would catch me when I fell.  I thought God was smiling down on me through the holes in the floor of heaven.

I lowered into my attorney’s ear, straining under the wreckage.

“Hank,” I whispered, clutching the arm of his suit, “did I lose my kids?”

He didn’t look at me. His pen was scribbling notes, monitoring the chit-chat, as if any of it mattered.

“Hank, did I lose my kids,” my dying plea repeated, “did I lose my kids.  What happened.”

“Yes,”  he finally whispered back, expressionless, his eyes locked on the judge. “I don’t know how.”

I had.  I had lost my babies. I was a coastline of utter destruction.  And out the window to my left, just over Hank’s shoulder, the lifeless and unseeing industrial landscape remained unmoved, ambivalent as God.  A round shrub grew in a patch of dirt one story below, in the dark and towering shadow of the courthouse, where no grass survived.  It lived on the other side of the glass, in a world I no longer recognized, or wished to be a part of.

I want out, I whispered to it, to the shrub.  I want out. I didn’t want this place anymore, this so-called earth, these false walls parading as reality.  If I had lost my children, then it would lose me in return. I was tapping out, tapping out, my spirit rising to seek the open window, to squeeze out through any forgotten crack as the car drifted down, down, down to the dark abyss of the sea bed.

My body, like God, did nothing.  It merely crumpled, unheroically, into my lap.  Trapped inside, tears washed over my hands like blood.

“Allow whatever visitation they can agree on,” the judge said, stacking up his papers, closing his crafty little laptop, as it had already granted us the correct answers to life’s most challenging questions.

“Thank you Judge,” said Debbie the attorney, bursting with cheer.  “We’ll work on that.”

“All rise,” said the Bailiff, stirring from his slumber.

All the bodies in the room stood at attention.  Hank gestured to me, insisting, and so I rose from the dirty flecks in the chipped tile floor like a dead woman, a canopy of flesh on a pyramid of bones, just in time to see the back of the judge and his black superhero cape ducking out the back door, skittering away from the scene of the crime so he could ride into the sunset, impervious to the shadow of a doubt, beyond the reach of a second thought.  He had the power to leap tall buildings in a single bound, but all he really wanted to do was get home for supper.  He did not appreciate being kept here, five and-a-half minutes late.

The room stirred with movement and chatter.  I looked down into my lap, into the floor, toward the hollow center of the earth. Beside me, I could hear Hank putting his files into his rolling briefcase.  A few of my friends approached the table to offer condolences.  Seeing them filled me with shame.  I could already see it in their eyes, the seeds of doubt.  The malignant consensus of my guilt that would spread unchecked in the school hallways, in the phone calls between those eager to admit they always had a feeling about me.  They would console me in public now, distrust me in private later.  Because now, I was a visitor, not a mother.

I waved them away with my hand, turning to hide my face.

“No,” I managed.  “I can’t.”

They stood awkwardly until Hank wheeled his things away from the table, and they decided to recede with him.  It was such a relief, the semi solitude.  The end of their eyes on me.

I wanted to stay in this chair until the world was gone, until not a soul remained in the courthouse.  I would wait here until every staring head was jettisoned to the far corners, so I could slip out unseen, crouching in the shadows behind the shrubbery, dodging the flashes of passing headlights like an animal. Only then would I be safe from the pretend pity and gleeful conquest that loomed on the treacherous face of my mother-in-law.

Only then could I get up and walk calmly into the gaping jaws of my new life, to a bed where hell awaited, and sleep fled.  Where I would glimpse the unfathomable meaning of visitation, and weep until I vomited.  Where I’d lay on the cool tile of the bathroom floor, pinned against the spin of the earth, staring down a universe so vacant it was laughable.  Infinitely ordered, divinely just, and also flushable, safe for septic tanks.  It was overcome by a sheet of  paper, ink-stamped “Truth” and nailed by its neck to a statue in the town square, on each page the Story of Me, and every word a lie.

copyright © K. Dawn Goodwin 2010-2011

Cars about Town (Carrollton, GA: an essay in photos)

Guaranteed to provide preemptive  forgiveness should a godless liberal accidentally get in yer way

How Carrollton prepares for Black History Month

I saved the earth and all I got was this lousy Avalanche.  – Jesus

a deer riding shotgun

The perfect accessory for any chainsmoker

Not pictured:  the dead bloody woman rolling around in the back of his truck, freed her from her slavery to Satan.

This is a hundred times better than the chicken truck on its way to the processing plant

shut the fuck up, I am awesome

 The Dying Savior understands your love of shitty pizza, and forgives you


(This essay was awarded Honorable Mention in the Genre Short Story Category of the 80th Annual Writer’s Digest Writing Competition)

I never meant to have sex with him, even when I was naked in his bed, with the sheet pulled to my chin.  But I always lied to myself about these things, to make the Real Me palatable to the other me, the me who knew about Aftermaths and whispered the warnings.

We’re only gonna fool around, I thought, barely breathing as he dropped his jeans on the floor beside the bed, and suddenly I felt vulnerable, uneasy about what his body might look like.  Bodies were all we had at this point.  A feverish need for skin on skin, despite a hundred miles of buried landmines. That could be anywhere.

“It’s weird, doing this sober,” he smiled.  “But I like it.”

He’d rather be drunk, I thought, disappointed. Oh god, what am I doing.

I could feel his self-consciousness too.  It was in the air as he undressed, skewing the spotlight back onto his body. Which was good because the light seemed to  glare on my own flaws, my less than impressive breasts, my stomach, the scars and veins on my pale legs.  Was I still sexy?  Was he?  I peeked at his black underwear, at the shape of his body, unsure.  He saw me looking and his eyes flashed a little fear. It was silly for us to be this far into it and still hiding, but his cotton t-shirt did not appear to be coming off.   So I let him focus on my shyness instead, ducking under the sheet like a kid.

“Can I see you?” he asked.  There it was again, his electricity working on me, an exasperating sexiness that had nothing to do with his body.  He was innocent.  He was sinister.  It made me swoon.

He peeled the sheet off my chest and nuzzled in. My hands grabbed his   back and his neck and his thick hair trying to get it all closer, burying my lips in the rich scent so I could drink it .  Every point of contact with him was molten, a rub that sparked an unbearable burn to cling tighter, harder, until all of his bearings were stripped, and he’d drag me down with him, tethered to our doom.  He kissed my nipples, my knees, wading between my legs until I felt high, moaning like an animal.

“You’re so wet,” he shuddered, sucking his fingers. “Oh, my god.”

I caught his face in angles from the corner of my eye, feeding on the way his eyelids fluttered, the way his mouth tightened with pleasure.   His breathing quickened, train tracks curving downhill, spiraling into darkness, into bliss, into destruction.

“So soft,” he moaned, stroking me.   “So soft.”

I reached for his hips, slid my hands under the elastic, taking him in my hand.  With the other I touched his lips.

“So hard,” I replied.  He held the pad of my fingertip between his teeth, licking it.  His other hand teased, wanting to go all the way inside.

“I need more,” I said, guilty. I took  his hand and brought it to my mouth, sucking the tips, trying to find relief.  “Please give me more.”

He reached up and switched off the bedside lamp, leaving us in semi darkness.  There was a slice of light from the hallway.  With one arm he ripped off the rest of his clothes, snapping one of the seams.  He reached for me and pulled me up on top of him, dragging me along the silky erection and onto the rough, hairy skin of his chest.  Everything was going to escalate now. There was going to be sex.  A little sex, I cautioned myself.  Only a little. What did that even mean.  I would keep everything at a distance, I reasoned.  No oral, no all the way in, no losing control, just a taste, his body barely inside, my thighs bracing for control, my white-knuckled grip still clinging to the edge of anything I could find.  But we were so tangled and swollen now, almost in pain, that when I opened my knees, just a space, he lifted and fit right into me.  He fit perfectly.

For a minute we barely moved, simmering in the glorious undertow between us.  I seized on him, threatening to pull away, to end it at any minute, but his hand held me fast on the small of my back.  It was that way for a while, gentle rocking as I tried to hover, as he gained another inch, until I lost my ability to recall what I was for, what I was against.  It was all a game.  The goal was to get fucked hard, to claim his naked body and his secrets, make them all mine.

I looked down at his serious face, snagged on the fantasy of his prowess, on the glittery surface of a temporary high.  There was no oasis in his eyes, no softness, they were hard and shiny with lust.  But he’d gotten control of my body now, fastened in me like a hook, soothing the ache, nudging deeper.  My eyes stared at the bedside table, square angles in the dim light, but saw nothing.  My body undulated and weakened, my head dropping into his shoulder.  I tried to pull myself back, to slow down, to find ground. He was just barely inside and already it was too much. A thrumming pulse that was pushing off me the tracks, sailing, exploding.  I was coming.

I expected it to feel good. What I didn’t expect was that it would feel so good I would cry.

What the hell.  I fell onto his pillow with a heavy exhale.  I covered my face with the back of my arm, and let tears fall without thinking.  He looked at me in the dim light and froze.

“What’s the matter?”

“What,” I said, blinking. The splendid tide was ebbing, leaving me settled and dreamy.

“Are you crying?” He sat up a little, his demeanor shifted.  His face was in shadows but I could hear the nervous smile.

“No,” I laughed, flipping to curl my arms under my belly.

He was still staring at me, silent.

“Just a release,” I tried to explain, sniffing. “Y’know. Pent up tension. Why?  That not okay?”

“It’s okay,” he said, laughing a little, as if to let me know that nothing rattled him.  Not even a woman, acting crazy. “As long as that’s all it is.”

“Yeah,” I sighed, brightening my voice to show him. “That’s all it is.”

He got up then, walking to the bathroom.  He still suspected me.  Of God knows what. Of feeling.

I scooted to the edge of the bed, as far away from him as I could get.  For protection, maybe, from my feelings.  To acknowledge we had done everything, even though there was nothing here between us.  I stared at the face of his digital clock, wondering how he would say goodnight.  However he’d choose to do it, I already knew.  It wouldn’t be enough.

“I like you,” he said, his voice playful.

“Oh yeah?” I didn’t look up.  “Why is that, besides the obvious?”

“You don’t crowd me in the bed.”

“Oh,” I answered, deadpan.  “Ha.”

It made me wonder if I should just get up right then, and head for the hills.  But before I could lift my head, I was asleep.

In the morning I woke up at first light, staring at the knots in the pine ceiling above us.  He was still asleep beside me, on his stomach, his head resting in the cradle of his arms.  I peered closer at his face, the flecks of gray in his hair.  I could see the tattoo sleeve plainly now, the dark colors across his bicep, a lone pearl shining from inside an oyster shell.

The light coming in the windows was overcast and blue.  Outside in the driveway I could see our cars sitting side by side.  His sharp and sporty, mine blunt and economical.  I didn’t know how I felt about any of this.  Maybe regret, maybe guilt. But I didn’t want to figure it out in front of him.  I had to get out and fast, before he woke up.

I slipped out of bed as stealthily as I could, picking up the pieces of me left strewn on the floor, putting them on.  The air was ice cold.  As I shifted around a button clinked against the bed post and he stirred.  He blinked at me.  I stared back, a deer caught in headlights.  Headlights, a push-up bra and unbuttoned jeans.

“Good morning,” he said hoarsely, stretching his arms.

“It’s freezing,” I said, hunting down my blouse.  He peeled back the blankets for me and beckoned.

Softening, I considered this.  I felt myself being pulled. I hadn’t realized how much I’d wanted reassurance.  Just a little. I crawled back in and laid next to him.

“Trying to escape I see,” he said.  But not as if it bothered him.  As if he was a dispassionate observer of my many idiosyncrasies.  As if I was a passing anomaly, like the weather.  “What time is it?”

“Too early,” I groaned, sinking back into the warmth of arms that did not belong to me.  I closed my eyes and rested.

“I had fun last night,” he offered, after a moment.

That phrase rang in the air, an unpleasant finality to it.  My eyes popped open.

“Yeah, me too,” I answered robotically, pushing away my hurt feelings.  “But I gotta go.”

I stood up and finished dressing.  After a moment he stood too. I tried not to stare as he walked naked to the closet.  I could see everything about him, and yet knew nothing.  He emerged in some soft jeans and a black sweatshirt with a bulky hood that puffed out behind his head. I startled when I saw him.  He looked so young and hot, effortless.  Wait, what?  Was I on drugs? I had better get out of here.

“Can I make you some breakfast?”

“Oh no,” I said, “You don’t have to do that.”

He began to make coffee, but I was already grabbing my purse and coat.

“Are you sure you don’t want anything?” he asked, following me as I walked to the door.

“No it’s all good,” I said, pecking him goodbye. “Thanks anyway.”

“Okay,” he smiled, eternally amused.

I hurried off to climb into my frigid driver’s seat, shutting the door and turning the key as my breath frosted in the air. Last night’s directions were still crumpled on the floor mat.  I glanced up into my rearview mirror and saw him standing there at the bottom of his front steps,  hunched in the cold, a distant smile on his face.  Instead of scurrying inside, he was staying to see me off.

What, I wondered, could that possibly mean.

Startled, I backed up and straightened the steering wheel.  I headed down the long driveway, checking one last time before I slipped out of sight, just to make sure it wasn’t a mirage.  He was still standing there, as if to honor the farewell.  What a strange gesture.   I idled reluctantly at the turn,  trying to give the image in my mirror a place or a name, a category, something.  But it was nothing I’d ever observed before.  It was highly unfamiliar, disarming, suspicious.  And it was the most romantic thing I’d ever seen.

Did it mean I was special?  Did it mean he cared?

It meant nothing, really.  So why, in the name of God, did it mean so much.

copyright © K. Dawn Goodwin 2010-2011

Dreams That End With a Gunshot to the Head

From time to time, I wake in my bed after visiting someone else’s life, in a place so real you could touch it.    I stumble through a doorway and find people I know and love, only I forgot that I’d forgotten them.  It is a vision that beckons, shimmers, then slams the door in my face.

As my bedroom comes back into focus, I have this sense of being stretched like a strand of hot glass, suspended between two dimensions. For a languid moment, the streets in this other world are more real than the ones I live on now.  Their names are on the tip of my tongue, the contours of the hills in the distance are so familiar I must have walked them my whole life.  There is a person there, waiting.  But the connection cools and snaps, and the faces freeze and vanish.

These places are not always easy to visit. Even when the scenery is bucolic, there is almost always an undertone of war.  Most times, the only way I can escape is by accepting my own death.  Sometimes death doesn’t come as needed, and I have to put a gun to my head.  Sometimes I wake with relief, sometimes loss, but always with the ache of loneliness that comes with amnesia, with questions that are not meant to be answered.

Last night I visited Europe during the occupation.  I guess.  I don’t have the words for where I was. I wore a long skirt, with an old gun hidden in my coat.

My life was all about my people.  I had people.  I don’t know what the hell that means because I have nothing like that in this life, I have no people. But there I was surrounded by brothers, cousins, extended family all around.  Our hair was dark, our skin was white, the men wore undershirts and dark pants all the same shade of beige, gray, black.  I walked through the dim city streets, grit crackling under my boots, sooty fire escapes overhead, fear in my heart.  Still, I wanted to fight, like an alley cat that bristles and hisses before the miscreants stone it to death.  I wanted to fight because it was my in my blood, and because pride helped obscure the reality of my inevitable doom.

My boys, my young men who were as close as brothers, all around me.  We whispered as we passed each other.

Tonight, I said.

Tonight, they nodded back, as if our every move was being watched.

There was this calculated façade of calm, as if we all knew what was coming: a chance.

We collected in the street as if for some harmless family gathering, sitting at makeshift benches to eat and talk.  There were at least a hundred of us, and we didn’t want to raise suspicion. Our small cache of artillery was hidden.  The air was prickling, men with urgency in their dark eyes.

This street where we sat was an alley between two factory buildings, and at each end was a tall iron fence. To protect us, perhaps, or confine us.

Three lanky teenage boys wearing coats that were too small, stood at one end of the alley.  They were dark-skinned with smooth black hair.  Their nationality was different.  They had rifles strapped on their backs, as if they were keeping watch on our behalf.  They were friends of my son.  A friendship, I suspected, that was ill-advised.  I knew they would betray us, or we would betray them.  I wouldn’t let my son go to them, and this upset him.  But there was no time to sort it out.  My son was lost in the crowd as it scattered. Someone was coming.  Something had gone wrong.

The fight was breaking out too soon.  This was not as planned.   Our men had been spooked.  For a moment everything paused, like the silence before a falling glass shatters on the concrete, and then a single shout splintered the street into chaos.  Gunfire pulverized the brick over my head.  We were discovered.  Now the enemy would close in from both sides and kill us all.  All was lost, and so quickly.  I ducked for cover in one of the buildings, doom and grief in my heart.  I knew, I knew there was no way out of this.  Nowhere to go.  In here, the booming gunfire was muffled, but soon they would hunt me down.  Death was coming for me, breathing down my shoulder, how would I meet it?

Down one of the corridors stood a beautiful woman, sheltering some children.  I knew her.  In a world of sepia-toned shadows, her face glowed brilliantly with calm and sweetness.  She had long curly hair down to her shoulders.

Stay and fight, she implored me.  Face the enemy and remember our cause.

But I was panicked to my core, I didn’t care about our cause, I wanted only to stay alive, to find a place to hide, to escape.

They’re coming! I hissed at her, climbing up to a bank of windows that lead to the roof.  I rammed my shoulder into the glass, breaking a few panes, stumbling out into the air above the crossfire.  The city around me was engulfed in flames.  I turned to my right, but the beautiful woman had followed.  She was beside me.

Stop, she warned me, holding up her hand.  She had seen something.  A thick gunshot rang out from across the street, and a shell rocketed toward her in slow motion, leaving behind a trail of fire as it landed in her body, embedding in her coat, knocking her off the roof.  I covered my eyes but I had already heard it, the soft thud that snuffed out her life.  The sucking sound of her dying breath roared in my ears, louder than the deafening artillery fire, filling me with dread and sickness.

Just like that, she was gone.

A soldier was coming through the window behind me.  I fell down to play dead, but it was too late.  Before I could surrender to him, I remembered I could escape. I placed my hidden  gun to my head and pulled the trigger.

I’ve done this in dreams a dozen times before.

First comes the loss of breath, then the darkness, the wrenching away, then the blissful fall through the escape hatch, back into my room.  And then there is  light.

In the distance, no gunfire, just the steady hum of a leaf blower.  I lay there blinking in the sunlight, breathless.

When I die, will this life become as distant to me as that one, just some passing, transient dream?  Will I doubt I was even here, the same way I doubt if I was there?

I guess it doesn’t matter. Life on earth is fucking barbaric.  Centuries of war, suffering, murder, loss– it’s in our blood, the DNA of every cell. Maybe I have a frayed strand in my heart that wicks up these memories, and when I wake it casts a little flicker, and in that brief moment before the darkness recedes, I can hold vigil between two worlds, remembering enough for everyone. Or maybe for no one.

Maybe just for me.



copyright © K. Dawn Goodwin 2010-2011

Hamster Food

Ah, personal trainers. I’ve never had one of my own, but I’ve suffered through enough gym memberships to understand their habits. For most of my young life, I was in awe of these competitively “healthy” male narcissists. I believed they could teach me – along with all losers of the world – how to be safe from Fat and Ugly. All I had to do was max out my cardio, hit the weight machine, eat less (aka get an eating disorder) and suddenly,  I would morph into a perfect replica of someone else.

My conclusion now is that while necessary, personal trainers are not always healthy.  Or useful.  Actually, there is something wrong with them.  And by wrong I mean evil. I can’t independently verify this fact, but anyone who spends more than two hours in the gym  every single day for years on end, might be trying very hard to nail the  closet door shut on a stack of skeletons.

I’m not saying that I’m not slightly intimidated by their carefully sculpted muscles, because I always have been. I mean, their flat stomachs and perma-tans, their holocaust against stray body hair, and of course the way their paper-thin skin recedes around their eye sockets. It looks really “great.”

But lately it’s occurred to me that the perfectness of a personal trainer’s form may be in direct proportion to the size of the demon that is pursuing him. Only it’s not usually a demon, it’s just his sad little inner Fat Kid, the one he can’t afford to let anyone see. He’s bullied him into a box – for now. But, in order to keep that lid clamped down, most personal trainers have to develop a fairly significant – and highly arrogant – Inner Asshole.

I knew a personal trainer once who also owned a tanning salon, ie, a man with a giant Inner Asshole.  His job was to motivate overweight women, to help them get in shape. You know, better their lives. But outside work, he spent most of his time scanning for hot chicks. Hundred-pounders, he’d call them, like turkeys. When he’d find one, he’d wait til she passed by so he could turn and analyze her butt.

“Gross,” he’d say. “She was better from the front.”

Which begs the question.  If we want to be personally trained, do we really want it from people who live like a caloric POWs, eating more performance-enhancing acronyms than regular food? Is measuring salad dressing with a syringe – and a woman’s ass on a sliding scale – really the Happy Ending to a life of health and fitness?

But personal trainers like these populate the health and fitness world, especially mainstream weight loss reality shows.

I recently watched an episode of True Life on MTV called I Used to be Fat, where a teenager was coached by a trainer to lose 90 pounds in 90 days. There was a related video on about nutrition. On it, a human Ken doll, standing behind a counter of meats and vegetables explains how to be perfect:

“What does a balanced diet look like? It means low calories! That won’t store as fat!”

He shows us a chicken breast cooked with a drop of olive oil –just a drop! That’s it! – along with a pile of pale quinoa and broccoli florets.  Wait, hold yo. Did he really stand there with his plastic-looking torso and suggest quinoa?  I mean in theory, sure, eat *gag* quinoa.  But the thing is, I’m a decorated/recovered health food veteran and even I – on my best days – find it to be about as appealing as fish spawn.  So, because this is MTV, picture the obese youth of middle America – neglected, high and unhappy, watching TV with their hand in a bag of chocolate-covered Doritos.  Undaunted, personal trainer holds up a Ziploc bag that contains a teensy handful of nuts.

“You don’t want to get carried away! So maybe about nine or ten of these almonds? That would be a good snack for you.”

Portion control? With raw almonds? For fuck’s sake, most of his viewers haven’t even seen a raw almond this year, let alone tried to chew it into a flavorless paste.  They should be allowed to eat all the raw almonds they can stomach.  Surely there is an imperfect middle ground between fast food slavery and the vegan promised land? Something that your average American kid could easily assimilate?  No,  there isn’t.  He can’t allow for that because he is from the world of shark cartilage supplements, obsessively timed reps and incrementally reduced rice cakes.  He is a mother effing personal trainer.

He points at a beautiful bunch of fresh carrots. “These vegetables have too much sugar!” He warns. “Stay away! Also, white rice is out. No good! Stick with a small amount of brown rice. Oh, and try lentils! And clean meat!”

Yes, this would all be very useful dogma, if his audience was  prepping for a bodybuilding competition. But they’re not.  Below his online video, their comments pour into the website from the basements of suburbia, the “dirty” meat demographic, the teary-eyed cries for help from our collective inner Fat Kid. Each one says the same thing, how much they hate their bodies, how fat they are, how they cry more than anyone they know, how they are at the lowest point in their life and don’t know what to do. But the video ends and the mothership steams onward, dropping an ad for McDonald’s in its wake.

Health & Fitness, after all, doesn’t really make people happy. Because once you get thin, you might get fat. If you get fat, how will you get thin? It’s just a hamster wheel destined for Perfect, which does not exist. It’s a subjective, shape-shifting illusion sold by the  Personal Trainers of the world, who you’d never guess are just as unhappy as anyone.

If I was the trainer, what would I tell the overweight girl typing a letter to MTV bemoaning her total unworthiness? I would tell her, go to the mirror and look at yourself. No matter what you see reflected back, say I love you. Say I love you exactly like this, no matter what.  Say it out loud even if you feel like a sorry prick. Even if it’s a lie. Do 3 reps every day.  Never stop.   That’s the real work. No personal training is harder than that.

Maybe that’s why we crave the tips, the tricks, the dogma of diet, the expense of hiring a repressed asshole to yell in our ears while we run the hamster wheel.  Sure it’s hard as hell, expensive, but it’s a cakewalk compared to getting out of the cage in our mind.  Or facing the fact that we’re in one.

copyright © K. Dawn Goodwin 2010-2011

The Loss of Beauty

Growing up  I used to hear people say, “inner beauty is what counts”.  It was one of those things that looked great on paper, but in real life usually panned out to be bullshit.  If it counted, then why didn’t it count?  Why was inner beauty more like the snickering consolation prize handed out to ugly people who didn’t get the invite.  People like me.

In the real world, especially the one girls had to live in, the surface mattered.  A lot.  In fact, despite a lot of lip service to the contrary, it was everything.  Pretty faces and attractive body parts were the sum total of our human worth.  Even God, who was supposed to see only our hearts, ironically chose only the comeliest maidens for the Bible’s best supporting roles.  Despite what anyone said, the mirror always laid out the bottom line.  The mirror reflected back Who You Really Were.  And your placement on the sliding scale of hotness was the Decider between life as a Role Model or life as a Joke.  Inner beauty? It didn’t even have a seat at the table.  It couldn’t even get into the club.

Somewhere along the way, someone told me I was ugly.  And then I realized – or decided – that it was true.  After all, ugly explained why I didn’t fit in, why other kids thought I was weird.  But ugly also became the battle cry that divided me against me, served up my first taste of hate, cast a miserable spell of self-conscious panic over every face to face interaction.  Back then, there was never any hope of appreciating the magnitude of the extraordinary gifts I’d been given as a human being.  What gifts. And who would notice them anyway, and what did it matter, since I was ugly.

Last week, I went to the mall.  I walked into a store where headless mannequins strutted with attitude and  oversized photos of young models loomed. Like plastic fruit, their faces had been cleared of anything real.  Their long, silky hair had been cut from the heads of plain-faced girls, sold and reattached to their model scalps, strand by strand, tousled with precision, and placed around skin that would be airbrushed to a supple pool of lifeless cream.

The greeter at the front of the store said hello to me, and I nodded back. She resembled the models too, only much shorter, and with acne that she’d tried to powder over.

I browsed the racks of clothes and took a few pairs of shorts into the dressing room, where a panel of mirrors awaited.  I undressed sheepishly, shrinking under the raw glare of the overhead lighting, averting my eyes as I kicked off my jeans.  I slipped on the shorts, buttoned the top snap, and then, without breathing, glimpsed myself.  My legs.  They’d been hidden all winter under pants, below the counter, beyond the reach of my bathroom mirror.  But here they were, revealed to the twisting cringe of the judges table at America’s Next Top Model.

On the inside of my right thigh, there was an angry looking, bruise-colored cluster of varicose veins.  On the back of my left leg, there were more.  Another vein ran down the front of my shin bone.  As I stared, they seemed to double, triple, quadruple – too many to count.  I’d had surgeries in the past to remove the worst ones, but I’d lost my insurance before the rest could be fixed.  It looked like I’d been beaten with a pipe, and was sprouting leaks all over.

Disfigured, my thoughts whispered. It knocked the wind right out of me, a fist to the gut.

“Don’t worry,” Tyra Banks assured me, “you still have your inner beauty.”

I tried to focus on the shorts, just the shorts, with their cute little sparkly embroidered back pockets, price tags still dangling, but all I could picture was girls whispering about me when I was 14, my guts exposed through my pale, translucent skin, a force-fed bariatric cocktail of pure shame.  The air itself was burning the backs of my calves, millions of blinding reflected angles, each one a judgment, a pink slip, a failure.

I dressed, not bothering to button properly, grabbed my purse, shoved my hangers into the arms of the attendant and hightailed it the hell out of there.  Above my disheveled shirt collar, the sphere of the mall gleamed and glistened in a carousel of beauty, all of it digitally, surgically, chemically, financially enhanced.  I alone was real, my tender and freakish body caught in the grinding metal gears of the machine.  I hurtled toward the safety of my car, where I could regroup in stillness, drive away from my problems, and never be free of them.

I went to the gym to seek absolution, hoping, as usual, to change how I felt.  I stood in the back of an exercise class with fifteen women of varying shapes and sizes, trying to follow along.  Looking around, I couldn’t help but feel like we were all caricatures of the fitness instructor at the front, whose body was the template, having been repeatedly shaped by the singeing edges of her own vicious will power, and also a hot metal cookie cutter.  She reminded me of the unforgiving tyrant who lived in me, in all of us, and who never saw enough improvement, no matter which mountains we moved.

Improvement.  I was always trying to improve my body so that I would end up liking it.  Only, I never quite reached the promised land of “like.”  I barely crossed the town line of “despise slightly less.” What was improvement anyway, what was fixing the thing I hated, without learning how to love it first?  Exercising when I was feeling bad was like worshiping  a parking meter: it only loved you while you were feeding it coins.

At home, I ate dinner and watched a TV show where a fat person was made to confront his shirtless body in a mirror.  He cried and confessed his shame.  I stared at the enormous folds in his exposed skin, the unfixable stretch mark scars, and recoiled as they intended me too, the same way I recoiled at my own reflection.  Then I pushed my plate away and cried.   These  bodies were supposed to tell strangers everything they needed to know about us.  Instead, they told absolutely fucking nothing. They told lies.  And the world pressed sticky notes onto me, onto him, scribbled with comments and fear and paranoia and untreated mental illness.

My whole life I’d envied playboy bunnies and acrobatic strippers and fitness instructors and gorgeous actresses and lingerie models, because their parking meters never seemed to run out of love.  But  I was tired of bleeding on a gurney.  I was tired of feeling ashamed.

That evening, I  scanned through the news of the day, checked the weather, then finally, half-asleep, I clicked on an article about a 25 year-old man who had received a face transplant that day.

His name was Dallas, and in the margin was a snapshot of the way he looked back in 2008, before he accidentally touched a high-voltage power line that burned off all the flesh from the crown of his head to the tip of his chin.

The last thing he remembered, the article read, was standing inside a cherry picker, making repairs on a church window.  Three months later, he woke up in a burn unit, faceless.   Without eyes or nose.  His upper lip, roof and insides of his mouth were gone, as were his teeth. His face was a numb, expressionless graft of skin.

I looked at his before and after pictures, and beheld the unimaginable.

How normal I suddenly was, how functional my body, how perfect it seemed, how socially acceptable.  Suffering?  Clearly I didn’t know the meaning of the word.

I imagined myself in his place, left to navigate the world in darkness, where networks would advise viewer discretion before revealing my face, and onlookers would shield their eyes from the sight of me.  I imagined lying in the hospital bed as he had, coming to terms with the pain, the loss of my control, of my pre-planned place in the world. How could I survive such grief, only to face a doomed life?  I tried to imagine summoning the will to stand upright, but could not.

I clicked on the video of him speaking.  It was prior to the transplant. He faced the camera, without lips, with the empty sockets of his skull plainly visible beneath the skin graft, and he said, “The accident was a gift.”

“When you stare death in the face,” he said, “everything about life seems that much more precious.  Every breath is a gift.”

I’d heard that cliché before too, how a brush with death makes you appreciate life. But as I took in his horrifying scars, and then the sound of his voice brimming with gratitude — and not suffering — the magnitude of his spirit settled on me, and opened me.  In a flash, I saw what it might be like to have my own body decimated, my own life in question.  I saw how everything that confused and pressured me now would evaporate, all the illusions would be stripped bare, all the relationships pared down to their essences, and all the little, overlooked things would emerge in their true glory.  At the brink, I realized, you could see what was lasting, and what was false.  You came back understanding the difference.

They filmed Dallas at the playground, crouching to catch his three year-old daughter at the bottom of the slide.  He told the interviewer that the face transplant wasn’t about fixing his face.  He was proud of his scars.

“But I can’t feel my daughter’s kisses,” he said, “and I can’t truly kiss her back.”

She descended the slide, tumbled into his hands and threw her arms instinctively around his neck.

“Daddy got me,” she said, and looked right at him, without the slightest flicker of hesitation.  She didn’t even notice the complete absence of his face.  Only his presence mattered to her.  Only him.

“She doesn’t care and she never has since day one that I was disfigured,” Dallas continued. “She says, ‘Daddy has a boo-boo.’”

Then he steadied himself, resting one hand on the slide as he struggled to stand up. Something about him spellbound me.  Even with no features, he was intensely, brilliantly beautiful.  How could that be? I wasn’t sure exactly, but this, I realized, was what I wanted.  This was what was missing from my life, from the way I saw others, from the way I experienced myself.  It was the overriding influence of someone whose spirit was so powerful it transcended everything you could see with your eyes. It annihilated ugliness.  It was more tactile than anything I had ever felt in my hands.  It was bravery.  Massive, larger than life bravery.  Up to then, I didn’t know it was possible in such heroic portion.

Perfection is the world’s eternal obsession, its constant misery.  But at least now I could rest my attention on a different map entirely, one with a path out of darkness.  I could put my finger on the pulse of what was true and did not hurt.  It wasn’t outer beauty, or inner.  It was what Dallas did when fate conspired to destroy him.  He rose from the ashes with no face at all, and shone like the sun.

copyright © Dawn Goodwin 2010-2011

Iraq War article, published by the Chicago Tribune 2003

When I was alone, without kids, I had a lot of time to float around. But I longed to be weighted down. I longed for a cast iron center to my life, something strong and smelted from pain. I remember asking around about the military life, wondering if f could hack basic training, l imagined mud and cold and mean girls much bigger and tougher-minded than I would ever be. I visited one recruiter. I was scared of getting hurt.

I took to hoarding war paraphernalia, war movies, box sets of World War II newsreels, newspaper clippings on Viet­nam. I watched them alone in my apartment before my waitress shift at a bar in downtown Atlanta, and when I came home sometime before dawn, unable to sleep, I would open up my papers, lay them on the floor and study them. I was searching for a soldier, for that frame where he flashes through the grainy black and white, no longer one ­dimensional but full-blooded and in color, someone you know, no different from the guy playing Frisbee down at the park at this very moment. I rewind and pause, rewind and pause, wondering who were you, did you die, what was it like, where is your body?

The bodies, the youth in those bodies.  Those blackened hands braced around artillery were hands that once ent­wined another’s, those strong backs and rumps a mother had aged her hands patting and spanking, those squinting eyes were memorized by a lover somewhere, forever smiling back in a picture flame beside a bed. Each shadowy speck staggering in the distance was somebody’s jewel. Swallowed up in the darkness, they vanished. For every young man who dies with his blood and limbs blown about like litter, thousands of miles from home, there is also a woman who is sitting at home on the porch on a beautiful sunny afternoon, frozen in agony. She can never trade her own limbs in, can never be there to pick up the pieces, the slaughter of sinew and helmet laced with frag­ments of brain that were knitted together in her womb, that contain the only copy of their shared memories. The strong limbs that she nourished are now broken, splintered, and unreachable except in the darkest snapshots of her imagina­tion. Is there a deeper hell? I can’t name it.

I had a photo of an American Marine in Vietnam, clutch­ing his rifle, holed up in a mission church that was sur­rounded by Viet Cong. He is dirty, handsome, both tired and full of adrenaline, not looking at the camera but right through it.  The caption mentions that he and the other sol­diers had spent that long night plunging back out into the darkness, under fire, to collect the dead and wounded from the grounds outside the church, dragging them back in, get­ting shot, dying. Back in America, the throngs of Americans screaming and chanting with their bright banners and disheveled clothes, filling a city street at noon. I’d probably be there too, if I’d lived then, I’d be marching with my fist in the air.  But I always notice the greenness of the trees in the background, and then the fact that they’re not being shot at, and it renders them, me, all of us – ridiculous. Of course we’re not ridicu­lous. It is not ridiculous to want peace.  But what do I do with the haggard misery of the boy in the church,  or the  mother and father who endure the murder and burial of their child. I feel ashamed of their innocence, then my own. And decide maybe I would’ve been a soldier.

The first time I saw an image of a POW was during the first Gulf War. The local paper printed their four snapshots as they had been seen on TV, bruised, cut up, frightened. I tore out the pictures and taped them to my wall where I could see them from my bed. At night I would weep over them, dramatically beg God to bring them home.  I was just a stupid kid, but I loved them. I needed to tend to their fragil­ity, carry their seed of horror with me. What was it like to sit helpless and bound by the enemy? Today would they drag you out and shoot you, would it be quick, would they torture you, could you handle it? And at home, his wife’s fears are suffocating, violent. She is in America, surrounded by strip malls, landscaping and yellow school buses, but she is vanishing, she is looking right through you, staring down a barrel with him . Is he still alive? Is he dying right now? What are they doing to him  while I cannot help him? An outsider, I watched and shuddered.

PEOPLE I RESPECT are going to peace marches. I don’t admit it, but I’d never go to one. I don’t want anyone confusing  my par­ticular brand of disgust with disgust for those soldiers, whom I love with a loyalty that is dead serious and personal. They are always my men, my children. As our  new war unfolded with all the pageantry of the Christmas shopping season, here were new seeds of horror, more POWs, which I regarded from my breakfast table like one might a call from the doctor:  I’m sorry to inform you, the disease is back. Inside you are breaking, but somehow you knew this was going to happen again, didn’t you? It was only  remission.­

Like bookends to the day are news stories of more men lost, this one was a devoted family man who leaves behind a 7-week old son, here is the picture of his newborn for you to ponder, and here is another, leaving four kids and a wife. Here is a 30-year-old soldier, speaking her name into the camera while the whites of her eyes flash and roll at the gun­man we cannot see. Here is  a building full of 200 enemy combatants, now you see it, now it’s just a fireball, but the Iraqis burning alive  inside the crumbling floors have no news coverage to rival 9/11, just a hazy rather colorless satel­lite photo for our comfort and viewing enjoyment.

As I watch I wonder, who chose the Font for the “War with Iraq” logo? What sort of style do you look for when designing a title for war? And what does it mean, these flag-colored bumper stickers, United We Stand? Back here on the home front, war gives rise to more opinions than floaters in a dead pond, and if everyone is as right as they think they are, what exactly are we united on? Soldiers suck it up, follow orders and get killed.  But if I put little flags on my car windows like we’re headed to the Saturday football game, does this make it all better? United we stand. I thought I loved this country, too, but I am too horrified to stand. I am that 22-year-old mother, clutching a baby who wears the smile of a man I will never see alive again.  My lover will never walk back through that front door, and I could

not even so much as hold his hand as his blood emptied into the sand.  The relatives will stay with me for a little while, but what then?  Little baby, you and I are alone, alone, alone.

I SEE OUR COMMANDER IN CHIEF talking and I am paralyzed with embarrassment. This spokesman for the American way of life, ambassador to all nations of the world, with his incredible edible Texas schtick. If he could form at least one unscripted sentence that had any depth to it, it wouldn’t hurt so much.  Somebody gives the man five or six one-liners to memorize, which he repeats in different sequences until it becomes obvious he isn’t really listening, and then the question-answer session is cut short, God bless America. The menu at Shoney’s Bar-B-Q has more original thought to it, and at least you know what the hell you’re getting.

I sometimes wonder what goes on in his mind as he rides on his aptly-named Bushhogger back at the ranch, in the heat with the loud motor roaring and the grass flying, where does his heart settle when no one else is around? What if he doesn’t have one, what if he’s just a clone, a sack of impulses and a pulse.  His handlers stand like gods against official blue cur­tains, snapping at the questions for him, steely and powerful. There are little flag pins on the lapel of their dark, designer suits.  They make war.  They love Jesus.  They remind me of  robots.

It is much more soothing to watch the average guys in their desert uniforms, dusty, familiar, maybe a genuine smile for the camera as he gets out of the Humvee. He is the brother of your best friend from high school and his wife is sitting at the kitchen table somewhere in Virginia or Con­necticut or California trying to balance the checkbook, the kids screaming from the swing set. He has already taken fire. In a quiet moment, he wonders what the hell he’s gotten himself into. He dreams of home. But he endures for reasons that have nothing to do with the script, with the empty speeches. He  endures for the warm, shady spot by the coast where he took her on the honeymoon, for the view from the top of the over­look that he used to climb by the old farm, for the smoke-­filled dive downtown, for the holy space where the light comes through the window on his sleeping baby. He has no power, no fame and another dismal checkpoint ahead, but he has some honor. He is somebody’s jewel, he is my cast iron center, my lover, my loved one. I cradle his image with my eyes, hoping for him, but they break for commercial, and he vanishes.

copyright © Dawn Goodwin 2010-2011


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I had to get the van repaired.  I was attracting too many men. Nothing says love to a redneck like a dirty, smashed up minivan full of sticky children.  While in the shop,  I got me a candy apple red Chevy Impala.  The plastic walnut trim just screamed Made In America. I liked the way my rental smelled.  Reminded me of vacations.  Whereas my van reminded me of rotten, lint-covered raisins.  I asked the autobody dude if he could roll new carfloor carpeting into the estimate.  Or possibly, a new car. He said he’d see what he could do.

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